Breastfeeding women naturally build their confidence by observing how what they eat affects both their milk supply and their baby, and responding to this challenge with different food choices.
This honing of our observational skills, and this attunement to our baby, supports our becoming a calmer, more confident mother.
Our culture does not encourage mothers to make these kinds of observations. Our healthcare providers to not show mothers how to keep an eye on how what we eat affects our milk supply or our baby’s colic.
Instead, we are told that we should accept however it is. Either our baby has colic or not. There is practically no influence from what we eat on our baby’s colic. The same thing with milk supply. Besides pumping and possibly taking medication (with side-effects from hell) there is nothing we can do about it.
Sadly, a lot of important research has not been incorporated into our healthcare providers’ way of thinking. For instance, I have gone back into the research on colic, and it shows that a mother’s diet is clearly related to her baby’s colic.
When a mother realizes that she can after all reduce her baby’s colic by changing her diet, she feels good. She has proven (to herself) that she can assess and respond to challenges. That builds confidence!
When a mother is able to create a steadier, more abundant milk supply by eating more foods, herbs, condiments and beverages that support her milk production, she is proving (to herself) that she can observe and respond! That builds confidence!
But the mother who is discouraged by her doctor, midwife or lactation consultant from making these kinds of observations has lost an opportunity — to build her self-confidence, to assuage her baby’s colic and build her supply with simple tools that are fully within her scope of control.
This is a sad loss that mothers deeply feel and regret when they finally do learn about it and ask, “Why didn’t anyone tell me?”