Breastfeeding Consultant, Therapist, Author, “Attachment-Parroting” Specialist

Hilary Jacobson has been advising and supporting mothers with extreme breastfeeding problems for over twenty years. She is a Holistic Breastfeeding Consultant (CHHUSI) and the author of Mother Food and Healing Breastfeeding Grief. Hilary specializes in therapies for the emotional wounds and burnout that mothers often go through. Sessions are …


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Therapy for birth trauma and breastfeeding grief


“The sessions with Hilary changed my life. I was in a deep depression before I saw her. I wasn’t able to breastfeed my baby due to many health issues. So my life was dedicated to pumping and trying to build my milk supply. Yet I was so devastated to not be able to feed my baby it was taking over my life. I was angry. I was embarrassed. I felt inadequate. All I could do was cry. I would cry multiple times a day. I felt so out of control. And then I saw Hilary. I will never forget our first session together. It was profound. It literally changed my outlook on life. And I haven’t cried since then. After several sessions, I continued to feel so much calmer and more grounded. And I am a much better mother for my son because of it. Hilary understood everything I was going through and we were able to process it in a way that I could let go of the pain and move on to enjoy the pleasures of being a mother. I will forever be grateful for my experience with Hilary and highly recommend it to anyone who is going through a tough time.” -A.V. Oregon

“When I read Hilary’s book Breastfeeding Grief, I felt like someone was speaking my mind for the first time about the pain I suffered. When I did my first session with Hilary she got right to the root of the problem, and the pain significantly shifted. Hilary found a way to guide me into a deep and almost primal attachment again with my child, in a way that no other Doctor, midwife, therapist, or healer seemed to be able to understand. Hilary knows so much about pregnancy, babies, food, health, culture AND life— Try a session with her if you are looking for someone smart to help you in a concrete and meaningful way move forward from pain and confusion.” – E.L. Oregon

A message from Hilary –

One of my greatest pleasures is helping mothers recover from feelings of trauma, pain, overwhelm or burn-out.

I also very much like working with people in the healthcare or coaching field.

A session typically goes 60 – 90 minutes.

You can reach me at 541 – 708 – 3564.









Best herbal galactagogue for the week after childbirth

What is the best herb to support milk supply after childbirth?

While looking at records of herbalism around the world, I kept bumping into this information: Stinging Nettle tea after birth.

Nettle (Urtica dioica) contains iron to help a mother build new red blood cells, reducing the risk of anemia, helping a mother avoid fatigue and depression.

Nettle contains vitamin K to help reduce bleeding.

It supports a mother’s kidneys and reduces the swelling of edema, so important for many mothers.

Nettle is known in herbalism as a blood-cleanser: its soluble fibers enter the bloodstream and attach to toxins, catching and binding them so they can be led out of the body through urine and stool.

Nettle does not lead to over-supply or create problems with engorgement. Its support of the kidneys can reduce edema and reduce the hardness of the breasts that comes with initial engorgement, especially in first-time moms.

The other “must have” is green cabbage. The leaves, pressed onto the breasts and left for a half-hour, also pull out extra fluids.

I’ve seen mothers with swollen breasts, ankles, calves, hands and arms, whose milk simply would not flow, pee off the edema and begin to have easy milk flow and a contentedly feeding baby within hours of drinking nettle tea.


I would like to thank you from the bottom of my heart for writing your book Mother Food. I am one of the mothers you discuss in your book with IGT, better known as Insufficient Glandular Tissue. I was not able to produce any milk for my first baby, for my second I maxed out on 13 ounces a day and with my third child I made a full supply but I was barely cutting it. Your book was recommended to me in an online community. I started reading your blog posts and decided to buy your book. It was the best decision I have ever made! My supply started dipping when my daughter turned 4 months, and I could barely pump enough to send to daycare without pumping around the clock. I read through your book in two days I so desperately needed this information! I started slowly implementing your suggestions one by one and in the first day I was able to make 1 oz more than usual. I then made additional changes to my diet and changed my herbs a bit and made some of the recipes that you have in the book. In 1.5 weeks I am pumping 8 oz more! Also my daughter is very content at the breast and more relaxed! I also took a look at the composition of my breast milk pre-diet changes and post and my milk contains way more fat than before! The best part is, I’m able to produce enough milk for both my daughter and to give to my 2 year old son who has life threatening food allergies. As a result of his severe food restriction he has suffered growth challenges and has lost alot of weight. By using your techniques I can now give him a few ounces of my milk and I am eternally greatful.
The information in your book have been life changing for us. Thank you so much for your dedication to the subject! Sincerely,
Deena Cannistraci

I am big fan! Your book, Mother Food, was a huge help to me when I had milk supply issues after giving birth and experiencing post-partum depression.
I had a very stressful pregnancy and had several other risk factors for post-partum depression. I also did not have a very strong support system before and after the baby arrived which compounded the situation. After my baby arrived, my milk was slow to come in and once it did, my supply would go up, then down, and all over the place. My husband also filed for divorce when the baby was 9 months old, so needlessly to say, I had a lot of life stress going on during the time I chose to breastfeed. However, I sincerely believe that breastfeeding kept me grounded and sane and allowed me to ride the waves of life during such a vulnerable and delicate time in a woman’s life. Breastfeeding allowed me to stay connected with my son who I am sure felt a lot of my stress. It is a way of comforting that is hard to describe, it’s almost magical. I could not have maintained my supply if I was not introduced to the lactogenic diet as you describe by my lactation consultant. Being a pharmacist, I appreciate all of the research you have done over the years and fully understand the hormonal mechanisms of lactogenic foods. I am also a living testimony that the lactogenic diet works! I was able to breastfeed my son for over 14 months until he self-weaned naturally. I am inspired by your ongoing effort to educate breastfeeding mothers and so grateful to have discovered your work and thank you from the bottom of my heart.
Manisha Singh

This book saved my milk supply. I was not giving up, but my supply was, until my lactation consultant recommended this book. Thank you to the author and my consultant!
(P.S. I’m breastfeeding exclusively for my twin boys now thanks to this book.) — A. Miller (amazon review)

A mothers companion. So much information presented in this book that I have never found anywhere else. I love natural food fixes for health issues. So many times we are told to run to medicine. I love the healing power of good food. This is a great resource for any nursing mother… whether you have issues breastfeeding or not. I look at this book now even after finishing my nursing season. Wish I would have found this book earlier than I did. It would have been really helpful with my previous babies. Great not only for nursing mothers but for midwives, doulas and doctors as well!! -Jessie Y. (Amazon review)

Nothing worked for me with my first son to increase milk supply. At week two with my second son I was having low milk supply yet again… I have tried every supplement including prescriptions from the doc… nothing increased my milk. I stumbled upon this book and made several diet changes and began supplementing with oils as suggested in the book… I now I have enough milk for my son! We haven’t used supplement for the past 5 weeks and he is gaining weight quite well.

I am so thankful I found this book.., I even shared it with the LCs at my local breastfeeding group as well as many other moms. – Lynn M. (Amazon review)

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